The Most Important Thing No One Talks About in a Growth Mindset with Ben Steinbacher

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In this episode, Aaron talks with Ben Steinbacher about growing your business and relationships from a place of authenticity.

Show Notes

:23 min

Aaron Talks

We’re going to turn the corner from the normal conversations I typically have about healing yourself or having a better relationship within, getting over harmful relationship patterns, and I just wanted to share some of my path and journey. 

I was getting super frustrated with growing a business.  And I this episode is probably the most important thing that not a lot of people talk about in a growth mindset. 

Whether thats a growth mindset in your business or your relationships. And that most important thing is authenticity. Authenticity breeds vulnerability and requires courage. People respond to your authenticity. They don’t respond to a copied message in your instagram direct message. They connect with relationship. 

So for me, I was answer the question “how do I build my coaching business off of relationships and have a real honest connection with people. I want people to feel seen heard and understood, and hopefully want to work with me. 

Thats when I met Ben Steinbacher and he exuded exactly what I was looking for. With these other business growing programs I learned somethings. I learned how to build a better website and how to write copy a little better. But there’s a connection peace with every, and that is authenticity. 

I got a chance to work with Ben and on this particular episode we talk about some struggles that we all face whether we’re a growth mindset about relationships or about business. 

It really comes down to stretching yourself and learning the lesson. Proving to yourself that you can do the thing that you want to do. Many of us have a fear of rejection and so how do we overcome that fear of rejection ? That will not only show up in our partnerships but in our business.

Ultimately we all want to be loved. If we’re coming from a place of wanting to be loved, approved, and validated from our achievements, that can get get unhealthy. 

So I invited Ben to come talk with me about growth from an authentic place. 

3:10 min Ben traveling to LA

• traveling as a human and coaching yourself first

• Not leading a small life

• Not as logical and believing God is leading me

6:20 Ben’s lesson

• Not living by the worst case scenarios

• 70% of our lives is being controlled by our fears and looking other possibilities

• different scenarios same person

8:00 min  Stretching Yourself

• Lets put you Africa, a see if you’re a different person

• We’re all growing and changing

• Proving yourself to yourself

• More trust and confidence in yourself

11:00 min Be in a big gym Stretch each other

• A culture of Celebrating yourself

• Focus on the process rather than the result

• playing the game to grow

• Your less likely to engage in the process if you continue

13:00 min How do you show up for the process ?

• There’s no book thats simply read and find a partner

• Whatever you focus on grows

15:30 min

• The hardest lessons are the ones that grow you the most

• The lesson of rejection

17:00 min Dating and Coaching

• The power of overcoming rejection

• Coaching is a very intimate relationship

• Coaching divorced parents

• Being ok when others don’t want what you want

21:40 min Slaying the Giants in Life

• Why Ben calls himself an authentic coach

• What does it take to slay a Giant

• Most people don’t know who they are

• People trying to do the same thing, just to be love

24:40 min Performing to be Liked

• Beens ben and done things just to be liked

• Had dream jobs and because he didn’t address his wound, it still wasn’t enough

• It will never be enough if you look for outward achievements to validate yourself

28:00 min Connecting Authentically

• Ben’s practices for connecting authentically

• Being real about what you like

• Holding people to their highest potential

• Being clear on what you wanted to do well

31:30 min  Building Relationships and Adding Value

• Aaron’s take away from working with Ben

• All of the things

• Getting down to the context and the way

• Social media and biz strategies come and go, but being authentic wins

34:30 min Ben’s legacy

• Leaders create leaders

• Believing in others first

• Helping others bring their goals to life

36:20 min

• Aaron was inspired to be a bad ass heart centered coach

• Owning your authenticity

• Love is bigger than money

37:40 min Aaron Closes

Thanks for being apart of this conversation with ben and I about authenticity in business and relationships. How you do anything is how you do everything.

Please feel free to share anything that was an “ah-ha” or breakthrough moment in the review section. It helps me know what better things to provide. 

If you want to connect with ben cause you’re a coach and you want to lean into being more leadership and being more authentic in growing your business. Maybe you are looking at getting past some overthinking and owning your self worth. You can find Ben on instagram @bensteinbacher

If you feel stuck in relationship patterns you’re welcome to connect with me @aarontosti on instagram or thekindoflove.com

I help people with codependent patterns like people pleasing, overthinking, and chasing harmful relationship patterns. 

If you want someone to talk to feel free to hit me up, direct message me. I’d love to talk with you. 

You’ve been listening to TKOL Podcast. 

I’m Aaron. 

Best of Love to you.