Empowering Men to Date the Women of Their Dreams with Emily Freeman
In this episode, Aaron talks with Emily Freeman about supporting and empowering men to go from confused to confident in their dating life.
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Show Notes
:23 Aaron Talks
Dating can be challenging right? There’s so many nuances that you can get caught up in that keep you stuck from just pursuing someone, having fun and enjoying the journey.
For men it can be really challenging on dating apps, first dates, and simply knowing how to attract the kind of women you desire.
So I invited my next guest Emily Freeman, who empowers and inspires driven men to go from confused to confident and find the women of their dreams.
Emily does such a great job of bringing awareness to what are often common dating frustrations for men.
We talk about green flags to look for in a high quality women, what women are are looking for in dating profiles, pursuing vs chasing, the stories we make up in our head about the person we’re dating, and some of the underlying issues that keep men from leaning into the relationship they desire..
It’s packed full of good stuff
2:00 min
Excited to have you,
Aaron has become a fan of Emily
2:40 min
Why Emily started coaching men
Dating is deeply personal, Emily wanted to create a safe space for men
Dating is a complete mirror
Release shame
5:20 min
Women are looking for leadership
It’s extremely attractive for a man to make decisions
reducing the polarity of Feminine and masculine energy can reduce attraction
6:55 min
The way to be attractive is to know what you want
Establish self-love to know how to receive a woman’s love
You have to feel it yourself first, what am I rejecting when it comes to receiving love and affection?
When something doesn’t feel familiar we are often not attracted, thats why so many men chase “unavailable”
9:40 min
Lets talk about the green flag
What are the green flags in a high quality babe ?
She knows how to meet her own needs and effectively communicate what she needs and wants
Boundaries allow a women to be wholly herself while stepping into a partnership
Laughing is a green flag
A women who is present at willing to take things slow
Intensity vs intimacy
You can’t just ask all the right questions
Enthusiastically responding to your requests
12:40
Some men feel like it falls on their shoulders
Alleviate the pressure by contacting and
Another green flag is noticing how she treats other people, how does she handle conflict?
14:24 min
The mirror for all of those green flags to be reflected back for women
The anxious attachment can get lost looking for a sign and not being in the actual relationship
15:45 min
Aaron Genuinely misses the art of dating romance
Crawling into love intimacy that happens in
Patience is really important
16:20 min
Confusion around leaning into something vs rushing in to a relationship
Being cautiously optimistic, with the expectation that you are still getting to know each other
17 min
People jump too quickly into assuming whether someone is right or wrong for them
Collecting “datapoint” just taking notice of what’s your
18:40 min
Marriage isn’t an expectation anymore it’s a choice
The head & heart conversation, you can know all of the things but at the end of the day can you just sit down and have a conversation
21:30 min
Just let what is be
There’s a lot of fear in dating and thats why they call it “falling into love..”
The body doesn’t know the difference between anxiety and excitement.. the brain interprets it
Anxious-excited trap at the end of the day it’s fear
23:30 min
If you’re not clear on your why then you won’t stay motivated
Pursue rather than chase
24:35 min
Indirectly Inviting a women into your world through your dating profile
Be intentional about who you want to date
25:30 min
Women want to know what their lives are going to be like when they see your profile
Women are sensitive to reading men’s energy
27:30 min
Men don’t really fill out their profile, it shows your level of investment
I want to be attracted to all women and the fear of rejection go hand in hand
Don’t need to be overly serious, be intentional without taking yourself too seriously
29 min
What makes a girl head over heals for a dude?
Be unapologetically who you are
Be in the energy of “I love who I am. I love my life, and the women who comes into my life is going to love it too. If it’s not you that’s ok. If it is you, how exciting!”
Women are attracted to men that have a lot of options in life and that his life is full waking up knowing what his mission is.
Chemistry can’t be calculated
It’s hard to build chemistry with someone who is stuck in their head
32:30 min
What makes a man magnetic who is dude who can get out of his head and being grounded in his body
Jumping from thought to thought doesn’t make a women feel safe
Men being present is the most masculine things you can be
34 min
Emily teaches being mind, body, and soul expertise to get present
Cognitive bias will make what you think is true, true
If you have a believe that you can’t find a women, it will confirm that you’re right
36:35 min
Put yourself out there. It’s not rejection it’s selection, the more you can face it the less it effects you
Dating should be fun !
Creating compassion and fun will help everyone else be open
Don’t worry about showing her a good time, have a good time for you
Thanks for listening to TKOL Podcast.
Emily inspires driven men to go from confused to confident in their dating lives so they can find the women of their dreams.
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If you feel trapped in harmful relationship patterns and want to feel free and confident by stepping into your self worth.
You can connect with me here..
Thanks for listing to TKOL Podcast
I’m Aaron.
Best of Love to you.